Who are the perpetrators?
Domestic abuse can be perpetrated by a partner, ex-partner,
carer or one or more family members. This can be in an existing or
a previous relationship. Perpetrators often blame the victim for
the abuse they are experiencing or deny it exists. Perpetrators
gradually reduce the victim's self respect and confidence making it
harder for the victim to assert themselves and leave the situation
they are in.
Abusers choose to behave in a particular way to get what they
want and gain control. This means that the abuser is always
responsible for their own actions. Abusers can choose to behave
non-violently and to build a healthy relationship based on mutual
trust and respect.
Although the risk of staying in an abusive relationship may be
high, leaving the relationship does not always mean that the abuse
will stop. When a victim is planning to leave they are often at the
most risk, and it is important he/she seeks support and advice.
Please refer to the 'What Can I Do?' and the 'Who Can Help?'
sections to read more about your options.
This page was last reviewed 17 September 2012 at 11:58.
The page is next due for review 16 March 2014.